Helping you

"Fall down seven times, stand up eight" Japanese proverb

 

We’re here to really listen and get to grips with what “your world” is like. Together we can look at ways to make life easier. To get less junk and more joy. What would that be like?

 

Introduction to mentoring for young people (PDF)

Maybe you’ve just heard of Lifespace from a teacher, parent or a mate. Perhaps you’ve just met one of our team, or are about to. In which case, it’s normal to have questions like…

 

Who are Lifespace? What do they do?
Are they normal? Why am I  being offered a mentor? What is mentoring? Can they help me?

 

This 3 minute video will help you get a feel for who we are, what we do and how we can help:

 

 

If you’ve had a look around this website you’ll
notice that:

 

  • Lifespace is a local charity - we have nothing to do with the government!
  • We are a team of people who are trained as “mentors”. A mentor is someone who thinks you’re amazing, knows how to listen to you, support and encourage you whatever you face, and help nudge you in the right direction. They WON’T tell you what to do or how to live. Your choices are your choices.
  • Our mentors are normal humans. We’ve faced tough and tricky stuff in life too, and know how that can sometimes feel. You’ll find we have some fresh ideas for making your life easier, for reducing distress and helping you tap into your own inside-strength (what we call ‘resilience’).
  • We believe you matter and that you have talents. That whatever difficulties or worries you’re facing right now, they can be overcome. Our mentors are dedicated to giving you the chance to change your life for good, at your own pace.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Comments from young people who’ve experienced Lifespace mentoring

 

“This is the first time I remember anyone has ever sat down with me and listened to me…” Boy, age 14

 

“Because of mentoring, I value myself more & feel valued by others more. I’m such a different person. I’m more… motivated!”
Boy, age 14

 

"Mentoring has helped me with everything, getting on with people and controlling my temper. I would recommend this to other people who need help. I used to be quite racist, I'll admit that, but now I know that whatever someone's skin colour or language, underneath they're still unique, they're still worth 10 out of 10. When someone gets angry I would advise they do what I do, which is ignore the troublemakers, get some time out, sit down and take some deep breaths. I used to be the class clown but now I know I get more respect by controlling my behaviour. I am in control of me." Boy, aged 14

 

“Mentoring has helped me with my confidence. Before, I didn’t even have the nerve to lift my head up. Now I am a confident person and a confident talker.

Mentoring helped me to realise my value.”

Boy, age 15

 

"My mentor listens to my problems and gives me advice so I can sort them out. The assistant head teacher said today that I've really grown in stature. I have learned how to say sorry, use eye contact properly and use my tone of voice better to help me get on better with other people, which is good."

Boy, age 14

 

“I really appreciated having someone to talk to who I could say anything I wanted to and I knew that I wasn’t being judged. This has been a really big help at a difficult time.” Girl, age 16

 

"I don’t get angry as much. I used to storm out and shout at the teacher but now I don’t. " Girl, age 14

 

"I have done a lot better at school and it is a really fun experience and the mentors are really nice people. "

Girl, age 14

 

"You may think it’s a waste of time, but believe me it’s worth it in the end. "
Boy, age 14

 

"If you struggle with your emotions like anger, take this – it could change your life – it changed mine." Boy, age 14

 

"I really look forward to my time with my mentor. He gives me praise and notices the things I do right. This makes me feel good about myself and do even better.” Boy, age 13

 

“My mentor has helped me be aware of my anger, what makes me angry and how I react. Our sessions have helped me keep calm and given me a lift. He helps me feel good about myself when he tells me that I can do it.” Boy, age 14

 

“I have learned that I am worth 10 out of 10, even when difficult things happen like they have to me in my family when my sister walked out. Things were really hard at first but this has helped me cope and decide to keep going. I can’t give up. I have learned new things about myself and things that I am good at doing. I eat more healthy food which helps me feel better and I know lots more ways of how to calm down when I’m getting angry or stressed like when I think about what happened to our family. Stuff like getting space, talking to someone I trust and staying out of it, all help. I also remember to bring what I need for school more often because I’m not focusing on the problems.”
Boy, age 12

 

“Before my mentoring, when other boys insulted me, I would just insult them back and end up fighting and being hurt. Sometimes it got totally out of control. But now I do something different. I speak to the teacher instead and find a better way out. I wouldn’t have thought of stopping and doing something else if it hadn’t been for the mentoring.” Boy, age 11

 

“A member of staff told me that the teachers don’t complain about me anymore in the staff room, well, perhaps once a week but it used to be everyday. It’s less stressful for my dad now that I can calm down and stay in control. He’s not expecting trouble from me on his way home from work. It’s much better for my mum too. I’ve changed from being a taker to more of a giver, doing more to help around the house. I feel better about myself too and it’s less stressful for teachers. I don’t argue over little things anymore. I’m more relaxed. I’m also learning about new ways of making decisions.” Boy, age 15

 

"My relationship has changed with my mum. If it hadn’t changed, I would still be sad.”
Girl, age 15

 

“This is the only time I can come and talk to someone about my problems. I’ve learned to listen to other people.”
Boy, age 14

 

“It’s good ‘cos they listen & help you be calm.” Boy, age 14

 

“Mentoring has changed the way that I think about people and the way I treat them.” Boy, age 15

 

“My mentor has helped me be aware of my anger, what makes me angry and how I react. Our sessions have helped me keep calm more and given me a lift. He helps me feel good about myself when he tells me that I can do it.” Boy, age 14

 

“I really look forward to my time with my mentor. He gives me praise and notices the things I do right. This makes me feel good about myself and do even better.” Boy, age 13

 

“The mentoring has helped me think more positively. I used to just notice the negatives before, but now I see the good things too which helps me be more motivated. I also learned about the chain reaction of my sleep & eating patterns on my mood, my concentration and how I behave at school. I eat more healthy foods, like grapes, and drink more water which helps me.”
Boy, age 14

 

“After the first session I learned how our body language and our emotions are linked. We did an exercise which helped me understand it...”

Boy, age 15

 

“When I arrived at this school I thought I was worth 3 out of 10 and I behaved like it. I punched people if they made me angry. Now I know I am worth 10 out of 10, and I am showing it. I’m doing my homework and when I get called names I walk away. The teachers say I’m really different and I want to carry on like this.” Boy, age 12

 

“I would definitely recommend this to my friends. I have enjoyed having someone to talk to and getting advice.”
Girl, age 14

 

if you have had support from Lifespace in the past and you have a story to tell as well, then go ahead and get in touch with us... your story matters even more than you think...

 

 

 

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© copyright Lifespace Trust.

 

All Rights Reserved Registered

 

Charity No. 1122170

 

Limited Company

 

Registered in England & Wales No.6425920

 

Website designed, built and maintained by Silver Lining Graphics

Lifespace Trust

 

The Community Hub

Tyler House, Tyler Street

Stratford-upon-Avon

Warwickshire, CV37 6TY

 

Telephone:  01789 297400